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The Crabby Old Man

Whether it’s a true story or urban myth, this poem I received today is really beautiful. The story goes that when a crabby old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home, the nurses went through his things and found this poem scrawled on a piece of paper. The news of the poem spread and it was eventually published in the Christmas edition of the News Magazine of the St. Louis Association for Mental Health. I share it with you now and ask you to ponder its meaning. The next time you meet an older person don’t forget they still have the spirit of a young soul within: (more…)

Life is a ball…

I came across this beautiful video on  YouTube that was produced by Eskaton, an assisted living provider in Northern California. It is beautifully written and produced. Send a beautiful message about aging and dignity – “It’s not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts!”

I hope you enjoy watching it as much as I did!

Here’s to many more: Woman’s 103rd birthday celebrated up in the air

Photos by Greg Barnette/Record Searchlight: Air Shasta pilot David Everson talks to Marion Paul after taking her and her son Wayne on a flight over Redding in celebration of Marion's 103rd birthday Wednesday

From today’s Redding (CA) Record Searchlight by Sean Langoria…

A Redding, CA woman and her son celebrated her 103rd birthday Wednesday with a flight over the city.

Marion Paul and her 73-year-old son, Wayne, were treated to a helicopter ride around Redding as part of her birthday celebration.

“She loved it,” said Wayne Paul, also of Redding. “She was smiling and grinning, waving and pointing.” (more…)

Old Age, From Youth’s Narrow Prism

Article appeared in NY Times: March 3, 2010:

Old Age, From Youth’s Narrow Prism by Dr. Marc E. Agronin

The old woman had drawn down the shade in her room — hoping, I imagined, to stop the midday Miami sun from penetrating her grief. But the sun still hit the window full force and illuminated the shade like a Chinese lantern.

She sat silently in a wheelchair, her 93-year-old silhouette stooped in the bathing light. I entered, held her hand for a moment and introduced myself. “Sit down, doctor,” she said politely. (more…)

HOSPICE – A TELLING STORY OF AN ACT OF KINDNESS

Photo courtesy of Flickr and bfraz

I was sent the story I am about to share and I always give credit to the author but I have no idea who wrote this beautiful piece. It brought tears to my eyes which is not why I am sharing but rather that I hope it helps each of us to reach out to others. As you read this story remember that people may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.

“I arrived at the address where someone had requested a taxi. I honked but no one came out. I honked again, nothing. So I walked to the door and knocked. ‘Just a minute’, answered a frail, elderly voice. (more…)

MARRIED FOR 63 YEARS – MEMORIES FOR A LIFETIME

I got the biggest kick out of this video. One of the After55 blog readers read our blog and shared this video with us so I thought I would pass it on. My own mom and dad had been married 64 years before their passing. I wish I had recorded their memory of their first encounter with eachother. I remember the story well and when I can dig out a photo of mom and dad I will write what mom thought of dad the first time she saw him. I may have to censor it..LOL  For those of you new to reading blogs or even emails, the initials, LOL, are a short way of saying Laugh Out Loud. Yep, there is something new to learn everyday! Enjoy the video.

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DOES LIFE CHANGE AFTER LOSING YOUR PARENTS?

Does life change after losing one’s parents’ and it is a resounding yes. It is never quite the same. Today, November 6, 2008 marks the 4th year anniversary of my mother’s passing. I pulled out and then posted the picture above as it was a day filled with laughter. That is not dad in the picture :>) although as a child when he disciplined me, he looked very similar to this Universal Studios character. Actually, dad was taking our picture and we were trying to stop from giggling. And today is also my brother’s birthday. Happy Birthday Mark! My mom wanted to make sure we never forgot her by passing on one of her children’s birthdays. We almost lost her on my birthday, which was in July, and thankfully she held on and waited until Mark’s. Not funny but somehow it is. All I can say is I had the kindest, most gentle mother in the whole world and to strive to be like her is one of my life goals. Rather than be sad, I feel blessed for having been her daughter. Here’s to the life my mother had and the birthday of my brother who has life to live…

A Blind Date That Turned into 60 Years

With all of the doom and gloom in the news lately, it was great to come across this happy story from NPR:

CLICK TO LISTEN TO BEN & BERNICE TELL THEIR STORY!

They’ve been together for over a half-century — but Ben and Bernice Finn met on a blind date. It was eight months after the end of World War II, and Ben had recently returned home to Brooklyn, N.Y., after serving in the Army.

“My two best friends were Hank and Eddie,” Ben said. And unlike Ben, they both had girlfriends. So, the two asked Ben if he’d like to go out with them — and a blind date.

“In those days, you wore a suit and a tie when you went on a date,” Ben said.

“I didn’t have a suit to my name. So, I bought a suit to match the tie that I had.”

That sparked a memory from Bernice: “Did it have apples on it?” (more…)

Honoring Our Parents As They Have Honored Us

I stumble upon emotionally moving videos on a regular basis. This video entitled, “Parent’s Wish”, struck me on so many levels. Josh Groban’s music in the background made the video touch my soul and brought me back to that moment sitting in the church as the service was given in memory of my mother. The only thing missing was Josh’s music. Secondly, the video, which I will share with you shortly, discusses the parent’s side of what they want as their life nears it’s end or even as they begin to age. Why do so many people find it so hard to honor our aging elders? Of all the gifts I have been given in life, none is more rich than benefiting from and truly understanding the value of our seniors. When my mother told me she was ready to die, I never once asked her to want to continue to live. Some part of me understood she was ready and my acceptance would help her on her journey. I hope many people who watch this video put what is learned into practice with the understanding that in it lies the destiny of each of our own lives. Click Here to play the video.

Love Songs – Top 10 Through The Decades

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(photo courtesy of ericwg and flickr) 

AARP has a section called Fun and Games. Last week writer, Richard Gehr, wrote an article entitled, “Top 10 Songs Across The Decades”, which I thought would be of interest to our readers. Are you ready for the countdown? Here we go, starting at number 10 is (more…)